Thanksgiving & Black Friday

We hosted Thanksgiving at our house again this year for the 2nd time.  I was thinking to myself as we were getting ready that Thanksgiving is perhaps one of the most spiritual holidays of the year.  By that I mean that celebrating it, in terms of actually taking stock of the things we're thankful for.  It's a distinctly inner-life, character building experience that's good for the soul.

Sometimes I think Thanksgiving in our culture seems to be crowded out on all sides.  We're still eating Halloween candy in our house, and Christmas lights have already been put up in our neighborhood.  Each year, stores have been starting their Black Friday shopping earlier & earlier, and this year it started on Thanksgiving Day in some places.  Walmart ran an ad campaign encouraging people to shop on Thanksgiving evening.  Waiting until Friday isn't even a necessity anymore; saving an entire day to give thanks consequently is also no longer necessary.  I'm a bit discouraged that we as a culture seem to keep pushing more and more toward consumerism and consumption.  Sometimes it seems like we as a society are saying "let's hurry up & get this thankfulness stuff out of the way so we can get to the shopping!".  A couple of weeks ago, @badbanana posted this bit of sarcastic funny: "CAN'T WAIT TO BUST OPEN SOME DOORS AND TRAMPLE THE SLOW & WEAK. #thankful #blessed".  I laughed pretty hard at that one.

Not that I judge anyone for going shopping on this day or any day.  I'm less concerned about what individuals do than I am about what our society as a whole says about its priorities.  Getting the best deal possible on the latest & greatest gadget is a great thing, but it isn't as great of a thing as a life of inner thankfulness for what one already has.  I generally avoid shopping on this day, and I won't on principle go shopping on Thanksgiving Day itself.  But that's me, and it's not everyone's choice.  I don't like Black Friday for what it says about us as a society, but at the same time I'm not going to go passing judgement on any one individual for buying stuff either.  The Huffington Post today has a piece today called "Black Friday vs. Jesus", which shows pictures of shoppers next to quotes from the New Testament that talk about the problems of materialism.  Although I generally agree with the sentiment, it's a bit over the top & judgmental   Jesus certainly wants us to live a life free from the trappings of too much stuff, but it's hard to not get the message from this piece that if you go shopping today that you're a materialistic person, and that's  a pretty simplistic and false message.  I know plenty of people who actually like Black Friday shopping (not something I personally can appreciate!) who aren't like that.

It is, on the other hand, disturbing that our culture places so much emphasis on stuff, and not nearly so much on living a life of gratitude.  The fact that our biggest consumption day of the year comes right after our biggest day of thanks of the year does seem to send a mixed message.  It's one thing to get a good deal and save some money, but it's another thing completely when we focus so much on the getting that we forget anything else - like the people around us or the things we already have.

Six Impossible Things Before Breakfast

I love this quote from Lewis Carroll's "Through the Looking Glass".  Alice says at first that "There's no use trying, one can't believe in impossible things."  But the queen responds by saying "I daresay you haven't had much practice.  When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day.  Why, sometimes I believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

It is easy to get discouraged; sometimes people say something is impossible, there's no use trying.  Often it is ourselves - we come to believe that something is impossible and give up before we even try.  But Alice is a girl who comes to learn that she can believe in and do impossible things.  Tim Burton & Johnny Depp teamed up for a truly weird but wonderful retelling of the story in 2010.  Spoiler alert, here's a clip from the end, when Alice realizes her ability to believe in impossible things.



What impossible things will you do today?

"Six: I can slay the Jabberwocky."

Wonderful

I close my eyes when I get too sad
I think thoughts that I know are bad
Close my eyes and I count to ten
Hope it's over when I open them

I want the things that I had before
Like a Star Wars poster on my bedroom door
I wish I could count to ten
Make everything be wonderful again

Hope my mom and I hope my dad
Will figure out why they get so mad
Hear them scream, I hear them fight
They say bad words that make me wanna cry

Close my eyes when I go to bed
And I dream of angels who make me smile
I feel better when I hear them say
Everything will be wonderful someday

Promises mean everything when you're little
And the world's so big
I just don't understand how
You can smile with all those tears in your eyes
Tell me everything is wonderful now

Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now

I go to school and I run and play
I tell the kids that it's all okay
I laugh aloud so my friends won't know
When the bell rings I just don't wanna go home

Go to my room and I close my eyes
I make believe that I have a new life
I don't believe you when you say
Everything will be wonderful someday

Promises mean everything when you're little
And the world is so big
I just don't understand how
You can smile with all those tears in your eyes
When you tell me everything is wonderful now

No
No, I don't wanna hear you tell me everything is wonderful now
No
No, I don't wanna hear you tell me everything is wonderful now

I don't wanna hear you say
That I will understand someday
No, no, no, no
I don't wanna hear you say
You both have grown in a different way
No, no, no, no
I don't wanna meet your friends
And I don't wanna start over again
I just want my life to be the same
Just like it used to be
Some days I hate everything
I hate everything
Everyone and everything
Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now...

I don't wanna hear you tell me everything is wonderful now